Despite all your efforts to stay off a break up and make up again with your exwife, you might be actually precipitating the crisis. In stead of patching up all the conflicts and winning back your exwife, you could be further harming the relationship.
Check whether you are making any of these ten break up blunders.
The first is when you tell your ex lover the tremendous error he or she is making by calling it quits. This may not dissuade them to stop the separation rather they start thinking what a wrong decision it was to tie up with you to begin with. As you prepare to succeed, be also careful not to set your hopes to high. After all, getting ex back is not all about you. It is also about how that person feels as well.
Touching Base instantly after a breakup
Your lover has just called it quits and this is an sign that a certain quantity of space is necessary and plainly a ring too soon may break up this need.
Calling when you are tipsy
You have consumed a bit too much and are really letting your emotions run amok so you keep picking up the phone to try and get your ex to talk to you …. See # 2
Senging lots of unwanted e-mail and voice mail messages: Generally these don’t help and make the receiver go further away.
Sharing your feelings of being lost, hopeless and depressed with your ex-partner since the time both of you broke up. You are in all likelihood seeking to tickle your exwife’s sympathy nerves, but in reality you are getting to be very dominating and desperate to your ex-partner. What you are doing is known as being ‘manipulative’ and this usually ends with a massive destructive blow to any relationship.
Discussing the breakup and bringing back bad incidents of the past where there were crucial disputes or fights. Perhaps you do get your ex’s attention and get them to talk to you but is this the best use of your precious contact time? This sort of action is kind of juvenile and would never get you anyplace, so you are glued from where you started.
Expressing your undying love over and over: Even if you think that your ex doesn’t understand how much you actually love them, apparently that is not the issue right now or they would not have left. It’s time to take a different position and analyze what went bad with the relationship instead of believing that true love will conquer all.
Repeatedly saying how sorry you are It is possible that you hurt your partner like two-timing or not living by your commitment. Being remorseful is natural and asking to be excused is perhaps the correct action, but regrettably not many people know how to sincerely apologize. Of course never ask to be pardoned all too soon. In case you think you have not done anything which involves you apologising, then you are being unreasonable with yourself as you are making critical compromises here and that is not a bold trait in one’s character.
Trying to make your ex jealous:
This could be a short-term and workable strategy as most people like to have exclusive rights over their lovers but this can never give you any clue to the break up and help you solve the crisis in any way. If all you are depending on is manipulative tactics to try and win your ex back you will end up with a pretty twisted relationship that will be even harder to keep going for the long term.
Begging with them so that you could get back.
Let me tell you something here. Anyone worth his salt and confident about him or herself would never turn that desperate, which justifies being backwards only to get back some person in life. Now that you know what blunders to avoid when trying to win back your partner back it’s time to get a better perspective on where the relationship went wrong , and what needs to change and then you can begin planning a SMARTER strategy for getting your ex back.
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